Giving and taking

You believe in a world that takes, because you believe that you can get by taking.

In a world that takes our egos tell us we have to be careful to safeguard what we have otherwise we will "lose" it. In fact, it is only when we give that we receive. Giving and receiving are one and there is nothing to gain by "taking". In fact this is an ego debate because the truth is that we are love and that is all that is real. Love is abundant and to extend it is our birthright.

Trust

Trusting your brother is essential to establishing and holding up your faith in your ability to transcend doubt and lack of sure conviction in yourself.

Whenever I judge my brother/sister instead of trust that they are exactly where they are supposed to be, I am of course judging myself (they are only reflections of me). So when I accept the truth I transcend my doubt about myself.

Innocence

The guiltless do not doubt their own ability because they know their function will be filled completely in the perfect time and place.

When I recognize the truth about myself (my innocence) I have no concern about "getting it done" or getting it done on time. I rest in the knowing that it will happen without my needing to control.

Compassion

As we learn to have compassion for ourselves, the circle of compassion for others - what and whom we can work with, and how - becomes wider.
Pema Chodrun

When we react lovingly and with more kindness to ourselves, we naturally extend this to others thereby teaching kindness through example.

Only love

" You are only love, but when you deny this, you make what you are something you must learn to remember."

I am slowly learning to relinquish the the little self that I made up in order to remember the truth that I am only love. My ego wants me to maintain my separateness and my individuality but when I  know I am love my little self disappears into the heart of God.

Message from Christie

Dear All,

My daughter Kayla, recently returned from the centre in Costa Rica and I have found it to be such a delight to have someone in my house to process with I thought I would pass this pleasure on to all of you. No, this does not mean Kayla will be moving in with you! If you would like to have a processing partner or would be willing to help others process their upsets please send me your name and phone number. I will compile a list of people who are willing to be contacted and send it out one week from today ( Monday, June 21st). The more names the better!

See you on Wednesday.

Love Christie
604 720 7093
christie@choose-again.com

Circle time;
Wednesdays from 7pm - 9.30pm
4438 West 5th Ave
$20.00 per person

About grievances

"Grievances darken your mind, and you look out on a darkened world. Forgiveness lifts the darkness, reassert your will, and lets you look upon a world of light."

When I hang onto a grudge about someone then I am making myself miserable. My ego says that my upset will make the other pay! Crazy ego. It simply makes me miserable.Forgiveness melts this upset and allows me to see myself and the other person in a completely different way.

Jerry Jampolsky interview with Diederik Wolsak

Listen to Jerry Jampolsky's one hour interview with me on http://www.blogtalkradio.com/love-fear-and-attitude/2010/06/12/attitudinal-healing-centers-in-vancouver-bc-and-costa-rica

Forgiveness

All aspects of the self that I made up can be relinquished through forgiveness. What will be left? Only love.

Don't misinterpret what compassion or patience really is.

For example, trying to smooth everything out to avoid confrontation, not to rock the boat, is not what's meant by compassion or patience. It's what is meant by control. Sometimes we don't know what is going to help, but we need to speak and act with clarity and decisiveness. This comes with opening our heart and not running away. Pema Chodron

Workshop in Vancouver on April 24

Diederik Wolsak, our Program director will lead the workshop. This month's topic will be forgiveness. Who do you find it difficult to forgive? What have you done that you may consider to be unforgivable? What does it mean to forgive? We will discuss these issues and more. You must confirm your space with payment prior to April 21.
The workshop will be held at 4438 West 5th Ave. Please make payment before April 21 to sign up. Space is limited.
Cost is $150.
For more information and to sign up:
Call Christie at 604-720-7093
Email us at csdakin@shaw.ca

The latest interview with Diederik

An October 2009 interview with Italian Television at the International Transpersonal Psychology Conference in Milan, Italy. Our Program Director, Diederik Wolsak, addressed delegates and discussed the Choose Again approach to depression, anxiety and substance abuse issues.

Vancouver, Saturday, January 23, Choose Again Workshop

Saturday January 23, 10am - 5pm in Vancouver, $150
Call Christie Dakin at 604 720 7093
See www.choose-again-vancouver.com for details

Diederik leads a workshop that is limited to 10 people as an introduction to the work that we do at the center. This time is totally interactive and personal. The purpose of the workshop is for each participant to learn to experience the peace of mind that comes from recognizing their intrinsic and unchangeable worth, and to then be able to make choices in their lives which lovingly reflect the person they truly are rather than the person they believed themselves to be.

Vancouver, Thursday, January 21st, Choose Again Open House

If you or friends or family would like to know more about the retreat, please come to our Open House in Vancouver to learn more about the program. You can ask questions in a casual atmosphere. Diederik and the rest of the staff will be there to answer any questions. Please RSVP, we have limited seating.

See www.choose-again-vancouver.com for map and contact details.

Thanks!

Workshop in Vancouver on Nov 29

Sunday, November 29th, 10am - 5pm in Vancouver.
Call Christie Dakin at 604 720 7093
See www.choose-again-vancouver.com for details

Diederik leads a workshop that is limited to 10 people as an introduction to the work that we do at the center. This time is totally interactive and personal. The purpose of the workshop is for each participant to learn to experience the peace of mind that comes from recognizing their intrinsic and unchangeable worth, and to then be able to make choices in their lives which lovingly reflect the person they truly are rather than the person they believed themselves to be.

Choose Again Society in Vancouver web site

The new Choose Again Vancouver site is now fully operational! The webmaster is still looking for photos that would be suitable for the site. Please send to sabalitoweb@gmail.com. Thanks!

Oneness

This morning I had a communication with a wonderful friend who recently helped her friend through the last stages of her life. She felt good about all the help she was able to offer her friend and her friend’s family and now, while mourning her loss, began to question what the real motivation behind the helping was. My response to her follows: Rest assured that all the good you ever did (and enjoyed doing) came from your true Self. The ego cannot stand that idea and will always come in with that nasty little voice (sort of sounds a little like my brother Dick Cheney ……..) and questions what your real motives are. You already know the response to that voice: " ...... awww, honey ..... ". Yes, your sadness is in part due to losing your friend and at a deeper level losing your friend is a symbol of the belief that you lost connection to the Truth. Your sadness is an indication of your longing to return to the Oneness and the mad belief that you could actually have lost the connection. In Truth, of course, that could never happen. Oneness cannot be divided by definition. That i (the small 'i') don't question that separation with a smile is an indication of the profound insanity of my ego. Wondrously, when I do lovingly question my ego it vanishes. Love to One and all, Diederik

Perception

There is no sight, be it of dreams or from a truer Source, that is not but the shadow of the seen through inward vision. There perception starts, and there it ends. It has no source but this.

Our perception of what we see in the world comes from how we are seeing it. How we see it depends on how we see ourselves. Therefore, to change what we see, we have to first change how we see ourselves.

Private sessions with Diederik in Vancouver

From April 1-12 Diederik is available in Vancouver for private
therapeutic sessions. Call 604-221-2292

Workshop April 11 in Vancouver

On Forgiveness: What is forgiving, who am I forgiving, how can I forgive someone for being cruel or mean to me? From 10 AM to 5:30 PM at 4438 West 5th Avenue, Vancouver B.C.
Call Christie at 604-720-7093 or email at csdakin@shaw.ca.
Maximum 10 people. Cost $150.